28 July 2023: minor edit and added update to the end.
I used to have a friend, whom I will call "A" (she was a
philosophy major). At some point, she fell in love with a
friend of hers, whom I will call "B", who had been pursuing her
romantically. They became a happy couple.
I learned at some point from her that there was a young man
who went to the same church as her and B, whom I will name "X".
X was not a good person according to A. I don't
remember all the details, but he could well have been immature,
or had a bad personality, or was in some deep sense ill-intentioned,
or something else. In any case, A did not trust him. And it became
apparent that he had a crush on her.
At some point, X said that God had told him that he was going
to marry A. (A and B eventually got married -- I don't remember
if they would have been engaged at this point or not.) The pastor
of A, B, and X heard about this and had a talk with them. He
told X that God does not tell people that they are going to marry
people if the person being sought or desired is in a relationship
already (boyfriend and girlfriend? engaged? I can't remember / would
depend on whether A and B were engaged at that point or not).
This story has stuck with me for years -- it came from a past era
of my life, and it's been quite a while since I was friends with A, as
well -- and I still think about what might have been going on.
Did X hear a voice from God? Or from some other spiritual source?
Was the pastor's judgment Biblically-based? Or was he saying something
pragmatic? Or was he led by the Spirit to say what he said? Or by
a spiritual force of pragmatism?
I don't know, and I suspect that the people in the situation also
didn't really know.
So what should X have done? Let's assume that he was sincere and
wanted to please God. If God tells you you're going to marry someone
who is in a relationship, but it could be Satan telling you that, you
could say "I just shouldn't listen to that voice, try to forget I
heard it". But what if God is trying to tell you something important?
It's risky to not listen to God when he's trying to get you to do
something, as much as it is to listen to Satan when he's trying to get
you do something. So X might not ought to have just forgotten he
heard the voice.
So now what? As a sincere, theistic young man, X might say "well,
how can I be most pleasing to God in pursuing this message that I
think might be from him, given the possibility that it is from Satan?"
He might think of all the ways that Satan could use this message.
Perhaps Satan would want X to harrass A and discourage her. Maybe
Satan would be setting up a two-step scam, where because of him
harrassing her, she had to (or would be tempted to) put up defenses,
act out of fear, judge X, etc. Or maybe if he looked further ahead
he could see the potential of Satan using his action to affect other
people in the church community or the community as a whole. A
two-step scam could be meant to get the pastor to form pragmatic
judgments ("let's just not have creeps hitting on young women in my
congregation") rather than really being open to the range of things
God could be asking, weird though they may be -- to put practicality
before obedience to God. And this emphasis on the pastor being the
"professional manager of human situations" could affect his overall
approach to leadership, making him less deeply theistic and thus
less able to anti-tempt.
A smart, safe thing X could have done would have been to not mention
that he expected to marry A, to stop showing outward romantic interest
in her, and simply try to love her and love God, not with any sense of
grasping but with the hope that is a "non-technique" (as Godfrey puts it
in A Philosophy of Human Hope), hoping that someday she would
understand that B wasn't the one for her after all, if that was in fact
the case. Or even to persevere in loving her without grasping onto that
potential outcome (of her realizing that he was more suitable for her).
He could try to change to become more suitable for her.
If X learned the ever-educational way of the desert, and
perseverance, hope, and trust in God, and sought to become a generally
trustworthy person (and thus more trustworthy to God), through the
message of "you will marry A", and didn't harrass or otherwise bother A,
then no matter where the message came from, the outcome would be fairly
unambiguously good from God's perspective (assuming that there are no
other significant factors than the ones listed). It might not have been
the best possible outcome (maybe X could, or couldn't, have known that
God didn't really give that message, and either way it would have been
better for him to not listen to it), but unless deciding to forget the
message would have furthered some bigger plan of God's (that is, if we just
evaluate this situation in itself), it would no longer be a win for
Satan, but rather more so a win for God.
So, if that message came from Satan masquerading as God, if X had
been serious about pursuing God, and had known how, he would have
actually turned Satan's weird advice into something good.
--
28 July 2023:
Having reflected more on evil, my perspective has changed. I think
the tone of the above does not take spiritual danger sufficiently seriously.
I understand the pastor's behavior more now.
Otherwise, I think the post still makes sense to me. If you're going
to listen to voices that could possibly be from Satan (voices in your head, from
culture at large, from people you know, etc.) then you should implement
what they say in as God-honoring a way you can.